Dedicated to @doeseen – @sonof_Adetona

Before you became a friend of mine
We knew each other for quite some time
I hate to say we wasted a year and a half,
I’m glad we can now look back and laugh.

It’s funny how things turned out,
I wish I could say I never had a doubt.
Truth is, I’m proud to say,
You and I have come a long, long way.

You touch the lives of people you know
You walk around with a humble glow
You’ve been a best friend to me
One that will last an eternity.

I know my secrets you will keep,
On your shoulder, I can weep.
You always listen and never judge me,
Always understand so objectively.

You light up a room when you walk in
I’m so fortunate that you’re my friend
You are the epitome of a best friend,
I wish I had known that way back then.

Words can’t convey what you mean,
A better friend I have yet seen.
You confide in me, and I in you,
You are a friend who’s completely true.

I never thought we’d be friends like this,
A lifetime of this we almost missed.
I’m blessed things have turned out this way
I thank God for you everyday.

I’m thankful it was not too late,
My friendship with you was well worth the wait.
I love you for all that you are,
There’s no better friend by far.

I love you so much @doeseen

I’m a big boy now momma – @sonof_Adetona

I’m a big boy now momma, but I can still remember crying in your arms Protecting me with your prayers so the world couldn’t do me any harm Taught me to be a man, even though I was too young to understand The seed stayed in my heart, while you taught me and held my hand We struggled with money, but you still found a way for us to survive You kept food in our mouths while you continued to strive
To be the best mother you could, even though it was kinda hard You lead us by the Bible, because in your heart it was carved You prayed to God alone at night, you didn’t want your child to see you cry Because if I did I knew it was nothing I could do and for that I would’ve died Just to see my momma smile, with a happy look on her face
It brought joy to my soul, because a miracle from God just took place For you to smile, even in a storm like this
Being strong for us, letting me know I don’t have to live like this You carved me into the man I am, with your hand filled with love Open to give freely anything I asked of
Momma, you’re in my heart, and what happens if I hit my head The heart beats, therefore the body lives on, even though the brain’s dead I Love you Momma like no other, strong, courageous, beautiful black mother Built on a strong foundation, because on a solid rock you stood Sitting in your room thinking, trying your best to get us out ‘The Hood’ But it didn’t matter momma, as long as you were there to hold my hand I understand momma, you were doing everything you can
And after you did it all, you just had to stand
Hold God’s hand, because He’ll be the mother you’ve been to me When you can’t find a way He’ll open your eyes for you to see I know you know it, and you know you know it too
Just believe you know it, and God will bring you through
Bottom line is momma, I love you, trust God, and don’t be sad Because I would never ask for another, you’re the best momma I could’ve had

#RON Lifestyle- 18 Facts You Didn’t Know About Penises (18+)

For all the attention they direct below the belt, most men actually know very little about their penises. Here’s the knowledge you need to keep yours healthy, strong, and ready for action-for life.

1. Every penis was a clitoris. Every penis in the womb starts as a clitoris before hormones ‘sex’ the brain of the to-be male. The penis retains the mark of its female heritage: its dark underskin and the thin ridge or seam, known as the raphe, which runs from scrotum to anus, are remnants of the fusion of the vaginal lips.

2. Penises used to have spines. Though they were lost before Neanderthals and modern humans diverged. Scientists are still not quite certain of their purpose, but they speculate that it apparently quickened the pace of an erection and is more common in promiscuous species (such as cats).

3. Fetuses can have erections! Male fetuses can have erection during the third trimester, according to ultrasound scans.

4. No brain is necessary for ejaculation: the order to ejaculate comes from the spinal cord, not the brain.

5. King of ancient tribes ate penises: In ancient tribes, the king would often eat the penis of his predecessor to apparently absorb his holy power. This practice was allegedly banned by the ancient Hebrews.

6. Testifying on testicles: In pre-biblical times, men would swear on their own penises. The word “testify” is derived from a Roman legal practice of swearing on one’s testicles. The word “penis” comes from the Latin word for “tail”.

7. “Shaved” guardians in Muslim empires: In great Muslim empires, there would be a guardian assigned to each harem’s bed. The guardians had to be “shaved,” which meant having his testicles and penis removed.

8. King Fatefehi of Tonga: between the years of 1770 and 1784, he apparently deflowered 37,800 women.

9. Diphallus is a rare condition that affects one in 5-6 million males. It’s when a man is born with two penises. Unfortunately, it’s rare that both are fully functional, and it often comes in tandem with other deformities that also require surgery.

10. Penises can actually break: Every year, hundreds of men break their erect penis, researchers say. Most do so during “violent intercourse.” But there are also cases where men snap their member – indeed, specialists note that such incidents are accompanied by an audible crack – by falling out of bed with an erection. The cure for a broken penis? Six weeks of bed rest with a penis splint.

11. Smoking can shorten your penis by as much as a centimeter. Erections are all about good bloodflow, and lighting up calcifies blood vessels, stifling erectile circulation.

12. The foreskin has an abundance of Langerhans cells, which are immune cells that are infiltrated by HIV. This may explain why circumcised men in Africa have a 60% lower rate of HIV infection from heterosexual intercourse.

13. A healthy male averages 11 erections per day-nine of them while asleep. After ejaculating, it can take him anywhere from two minutes to two weeks to achieve another erection.

14. From shower to grower: On average, a limp penis will increase in volume 300% when it is erect. It will also contain more than eight to ten times its normal amount of blood.

15. Jonah Falcon, a 42-years-old man with a 9-inch penis (22.86 cm; 13.5 inches, or over 34 cm when hard). He’s the man with the world’s largest penis.

16. Animals with the biggest and smallest penises: the Blue Whale is the animal with the biggest recorded penis to date, at 8 feet (over 2 m) long. The adult male elephant has the biggest recorded penis for land animals, at 6 feet (1.8288 m, and S-shaped when erect). And coming in with the smallest penis is the shrew, at .2 inches (0.5 cm).

17. Koro, a culture-specific syndrome, where a man (or a woman) is overcome with a debilitating fear that his penis (or her nipples) is shrinking and will eventually disappear. Interestingly, this fear is borne out of no real proof or evidence. It is also known as “penis panic” and has been said to provoke mass hysteria.

18. Semen can cure depression: Apparently, semen contains chemicals that elevate mood, increase affection, induce sleep, and contain at least three antidepressants. It also contains cortisol, which is known to increase affection; as well as estrone, which elevates mood; oxytocin, which also elevates mood; thyrotropin-releasing hormone, which is another antidepressant; melatonin, which is a sleep aid; and serotonin, which is a well-known antidepressant neurotransmitter.

#RON Lifestyle- 8 Myths That Kill Relationships

When you think relationships should be a certain way, and yours isn’t, frustration sets in. And “frustration is the number one thing that eats away at a relationships.
Here are 8 myths you need to do away with to prevent your relationship from going down a dark tunnel. 1. Myth: A good relationship means that you don’t have to work at it.

Fact: “The strongest most enduring relationships take lots of hard work. Another bad sign is if you’re trying hard to make improvements and changes, but you don’t see the same level of effort on your partner’s part. On the flip side, if both of you are trying and you can see positive changes being made at least some of the time, then that’s a good sign.

2. Myth: If partners really love each other, they know each other’s needs and feelings.

Fact: “It’s a setup to expect your partner to be able to read your mind,” because when you anticipate that your partner will know your wants, that’s essentially what you’re doing. We develop this expectation as kids, but “as adults, we’re always responsible for communicating our feelings and needs. And once you’ve communicated your needs and feelings, “a better measure of the quality of your relationship” is whether your partner actually listens to your words.

3. Myth: If you’re truly in love, passion will never fade.

Fact: Thanks to movies and romantic novels, we assume that if we genuinely love someone, “the passion, urging and loving” never go away. And if they do disappear, then “it must not be the right relationship” or “our relationship [must be] in trouble,” However, passion naturally diminishes in all relationships. As their responsibilities grow and roles expand, couples have less and less time and energy for each other. But with a little planning and playfulness, you can boost passion, couples can do new things together to perk things up, ask yourselves: “How do we tame our lives sufficiently that we can make time for each other and have energy left for each other?”

4. Myth: Having a child will strengthen your relationship or marriage.

Fact: Studies have shown that in some relationships happiness actually decreases with every child. This doesn’t mean that you start loving each other less or that you won’t bond at all over your child, but the mounting challenges can complicate relationships. Having realistic expectations helps couples prepare themselves for their new roles. When you think that a child will improve your relationship, it only adds to the complications.

5. Myth: Jealousy is a sign of true love and caring.

Fact: Jealousy is more about how secure and confident you are with yourself and your relationship (or the lack thereof), she said. Take the following example: If you have a jealous partner, you might try to show them how much you care so they don’t get jealous. But you soon realize that any amount of caring isn’t a cure for their jealous reactions.

While you can be supportive, your partner must work on their insecurity issues on their own. “No matter what you do, you can’t make your partner feel more secure” or “change their self-confidence.”

6. Myth: Fights ruin relationships.

Fact: In actuality, what ruins relationships is not resolving your fights, Blum said. “Fights can be really healthy, and an important form of communication and clearing the air.”

Also, the type of fight a couple has plays a role. Not surprisingly, nasty, scornful or condescending fights that leave couples resolution-less and not talking for days damage the relationship. Productive conflicts that help the relationship end with “some mutual decision about how to manage this disagreement.

7. Myth: In order for the relationship to be successful, the other partner must change.

Fact: Many times we’re very good at the blame game and not so good at pondering how we can become better partners. Instead, we demand that our partners make such and such changes. Unless, there are extreme circumstances like abuse or chronic infidelity, it takes two to make changes.

8. Myth: Couples therapy means your relationship is really in trouble.
Fact: By the time couples seek therapy, this may be true, but changing this mindset is key. Most couples seek therapy “when they’ve been suffering for a really long time. So therefore, people should view therapy as preventive, meaning you should go for therapy at the early stages of light issues not when you’ve been stuck in conflicts for over 10 years.

#RON Lifestyle- 5 Ways To Save Your Marriage

If your marriage is falling apart, these five steps provide you with a clear path out of the darkness and a new beginning for your relationship journey.

With these five steps, couples have been able to reawaken love and enjoy each other again. Even if your situation seems hopeless, don’t give up.

1) Commit: While it may appear obvious, the couples that do not make it are usually those not committed to making their marriage work. When you make the decision to commit, you have decided to put in the hard work that is needed to save your marriage. When you waver and think about what it would be like if you married someone else or how you wish your life would be different, you are usually not able to generate enough momentum to push forward and repair the relationship.

2) Seal your exits: Couples in crisis are often focused everywhere but their marriage. It’s so painful, who can blame them? Even if we are physically married, many of us have “checked out.”An essential step to bringing the energy back into the relationship is to seal your exits. This means thinking about the various activities where we focus our inner resources and whether they have become substitutes for the look of excitement and fulfillment in marriage. Besides the obvious (often-fatal) exits of infidelity and substance abuse, here are a few common exits that we may find ourselves doing: Work, exercise, overeating, facebook, taking care of the kids

3) Detox your marriage: Eliminate all name-calling, finger-pointing, blaming, and shaming. A toxic relationship cannot thrive. Angry outbursts chip away at the love and trust that a couple has for each other. Instead, take ownership for your feelings and frustration by focusing on why your spouse’s actions disturb you. Replace the “you” of “you always do this” with “I” – “how I felt when…”

Finally, learn to ask for what you want. It’s so easy to complain that we often forget what it is we are missing. Rather than focusing on how your spouse ignores you, share how badly you crave his love and attention. Not only does detoxing your marriage help remove the poison from your relationship, it will make your spouse much more amenable to meeting your needs.

4) Enter the world of the other: One of the painful realizations that married people discover is that “my spouse is not me.” In order to make room for the other, it is critical to learn how to acknowledge that your spouse may see the world very differently than you. Get into the habit of asking, “Is now a good time?”

5) Love infusions: Working on any relationship is challenging, especially so when you are trying to rescue one in crisis. That’s why it is crucial to infuse your relationship with loving behaviors that promote positive energy. These love infusions help lighten things and add fun. Show appreciation, fix date nights and exude caring behaviors.

When we act lovingly we not only stimulate our own love for our spouse; we awaken their love for us as well. And with these concrete behavioral changes occurring, we show that the relationship can indeed be different.

#RON Lifestyle-10 Ways Your Personality Affects Your Weight

Whether you’re the life of the party, a bookworm, or most active during the night, your personality plays a surprisingly large role in your ability to slim down. Follow this guide to discover your personality type and use your own characteristics to lose weight and keep it off for good.

If you’re impulsive: In a famous 1972 study, scientists offered young children a choice between a single marshmallow immediately or, if they could wait 15 minutes, two marshmallows. Those who waited went onto experience more success and higher SAT scores later on in life. The ability to delay gratification also relates to weight loss, researchers say.

People tend to be either a “one-marshmallow person” or a “two-marshmallow person.” If you’re struggling with weight loss, you are more likely a one-marshmallow person. Eliminating little temptations will help: stop stocking your pantry with junk food, and avoid the break room at work when you know there will be leftover treats.

If you’re reliable: Always on time? Follow rules by the book? It means you’re conscientious, a trait that makes it easier to stick with an eating or fitness plan. However, whether you’re conscientious or not, there’s a paradox in that creating a plan forces you to think about food all the time, which can work against you. The solution: create routines not specifically about dropping pounds that will still lead to weight loss, he suggests. For example, instead of driving your kids the mile to school, start walking with them.

If you’re prone to mood swings: The way you ride life’s rollercoaster determines your emotional stability. If you’re emotionally excitable, things are either very good or the worst ever. Some people are emotional eaters, so the more you’re on the emotional rollercoaster the more likely you are to reach for food. The more excited you are in general, the more likely you are to take action, and eating is an action, researchers say. Learn to recognize your own ups and downs and try to take action in healthier ways, like calling a friend or sweating your stress away with a workout.

If you’re quiet: People who prefer curling up with a book over a night out at the bar may have a leg up on weight loss. Introverts may have a more thoughtful, less impulsive style that enables them to consider their choices more rationally, specialists say. Introverts are more likely to possess qualities that enable them to commit to a healthy diet and regular exercise routine, both of which require restraint, difficult for more impulsive people, she says. Extroverts should plan ahead for situations that test willpower. If you know you’re headed to a party, for instance, eat a healthy snack beforehand so you’ll be less likely to scarf down junk.

If you’re the life of the party: Outgoing people tend to allow stress to accumulate to the point that’s known as “amygdala hijack,” according to researchers. This is where we utilize the more basic, primitive part of our brain versus our more human pre-frontal cortex. The latter allows us to consider our longer-term goals and make healthier choices, says Hanna. This pleasure based eating has been shown to trigger an addictive response that often leads to overeating high-calorie, high-fat comfort foods. If you enjoy being the center of attention, try putting yourself in social situations that don’t involve food.

If you’re often hard on yourself: People who lack self-compassion have a huge negative reaction every time they make a mistake. Those high in self-compassion simply move on and vow to not make the same mistake again. If you’re hard on yourself, you’re more likely to continue overeating after you’re slipped up, since realizing you’ve overeaten leads to feelings of hopelessness. If you’re not self-compassionate by nature, you need to work on forgiving yourself!

If you’re a night owl: Staying up until the wee hours may wreak havoc with your waistline. Researchers found that people who were kept up until 4 a.m. ate 550 additional calories during their late night hours. What’s more, a higher percentage of the late-night calories came from high-fat foods than they did during daytime hours.

If you’re an early bird: In an recent study, participants who woke up early were less likely to be overweight than night owls-even though both groups slept the same number of hours. Although this study involved young children, the results are likely applicable to adults as well. If you love to sleep in, you may not be getting enough sleep, in which case you need to go to bed earlier to increase your total sleep time. Doctors recommend adults strive for seven to nine hours of sleep per night.

If you’re self-centered: Being a little stuck on yourself may not be such a bad thing when trying to lose weight. Self-centered people tend to consider their own interests, which could lead them to better conserve their energy and have more willpower to make healthy choices. People-pleasers, on the other hand, may get overly stressed about helping everyone else and find themselves depleted at the end of the day. This often triggers poor food choices. Instead, practice being more “selfish” in asking for what you want and sticking to it without feeling guilty. Meet friends after your workout instead of canceling your exercise plans, or ask them to join you.

If you’re easygoing: People who go with the flow tend to be leaner than those who are more neurotic, according to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. In some cases, however, this may backfire. Highly agreeable people may stress over failure because they’re afraid of letting other people down. This stress can actually get in the way of successful weight loss, because stress makes it harder to resist temptation.

#RON Lifestyle- 10 Sure Ways To Improve Your Relationship

Relationships and marriage are not easy. When you’ve seen people who make it together for long, you know you are looking at two people who have fought, compromised, and stayed committed to one another through a lot. There’s a lot to be learned from these people.

But relationships don’t fail from big problems, at least not all the time. Very often, people end up splitting over the small things, especially once the small things add up.

With this in mind, here are 10 important ways you can improve your relationship with your significant other.

Apologize when you are wrong: Forget pride. If you realize you are wrong in a fight, admit it and say you are sorry. It will make a world of difference in terms of staying close.

Imagine the other person gone during a fight: There is no better way to stop a fight than to imagine losing or missing the other person. That sadness? That tightness in your chest? That’s the love you feel for them.

Laugh more: For me, this is the biggest secret to 10 years of marriage. My husband and I crack each other up. We roll on the floor laughing and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. This is what keeps us strong.

Arrange weekly meetings: If you have young kids and two careers, there is nothing more important than having weekly “meetings.” It may not be romantic, but neither is nagging, and this curbs that a lot.

Schedule sex: It’s not romantic, but in our busy lives, it’s necessary. Pencil it in, because you know what’s less romantic? A sexless marriage.

Talk about the little things: Talk about the big things, but also discuss the little things. Talk and then talk some more. The more you talk, the more you learn.

Have your own life: No one likes someone with no friends. So get hobbies. Get friends. Get a life! Now! It will make your spouse appreciate you more.

Remember to thank the other person: It’s true. However small it seems, remember to say thanks for small things, even if they are expected. “Hey, thanks for making dinner tonight.” It creates a lot of goodwill and helps each person feel appreciated.

Stop yelling: No one is suggesting you stop fighting. Some fights are needed. But stop yelling. And name calling. And fighting dirty. Trust me.

Hold hands: Even when you are mad at each other, just touch. Whether it’s in bed or out of bed. Sometimes the simple act of touching one another can help curb angry feelings.